The right not to be asked to choose sides between one’s parents.

The right not to be told the details of a bitter, nasty divorce.

The right not to be told “bad things” about the other parent.

The right to privacy when talking to either parent on the phone.

The right not to be cross-examined by one parent after spending time or talking to the other parent.

The right not to be a messenger or spy from one parent to the other.

The right not to be asked by one parent to tell the other parent untruths or lies.

The right not to be used as a confidant regarding the divorce proceedings by one parent or another.

The right not to hear or be involved in child support issues.

The right to express feelings, whatever those feelings may be.

The right to be protected from parental conflict.

The right to love both parents.

The right to have a relationship of their own choosing with step-parents and new siblings.

The right to be a child.

Adapted from the “Bill of Rights” created by the staff of the Dane County FamilyCourt Counseling Center, Madison, Wisconsin.