Conscious Uncoupling and Co-Parenting
The concept of a “good divorce” or a “conscious uncoupling” as an alternative to a contentious divorce was introduced in the 1970’s and recently hit the media when Gwynth Paltrow and her husband, Chris Martin, chose to use this concept to separate. On Goop, Ms. Paltrow’s website, she references a ground breaking article on conscious uncoupling by Dr. Habib Sadeghi and Dr. Sherry Sami. To read their article, visit Goop, “Conscious Uncoupling.”
Drs. Sadeghi and Sami say, “If we can recognize that our partners in our intimate relationships are our teachers, helping us evolve our internal, spiritual support structure, we can avoid the drama of divorce and experience what we call a conscious uncoupling.” Further, they teach that “when we understand that both are actually partners in each other’s spiritual progress, animosity dissolves much quicker and a new paradigm for conscious uncoupling emerges . . . . It is only under these circumstances that loving co-parenting can happen.”
Rise Strong After Divorce invites you to consider designing a “good divorce” by consciously uncoupling and opening up the possibility of personal and spiritual growth during the separation or divorce process. Our practice is focused on providing individual, couples or co-parent coaching to ensure uncoupling is a growth process.
Uncoupling ends dysfunctional relationships and invites two whole individuals to emerge with new lessons and perspectives. When both partners are focused on learning and growing, co-parenting is easier and more beneficial for the children. Sadeghi and Sami promise that “although it looks like everything is coming apart; it’s actually all coming back together.”
-Liz Dalton, J.D.